Introduce BDSM Into Your Relationship
I was approached a few weeks ago about letting one of my favorite sites do a guest post on my site. It only took me two seconds to say YES, especially since they wanted to do a post about BDSM. Please welcome Rachel Edwards, our guest blogger for the day:
If you’ve ever been intrigued by kink or bondage, introducing BDSM into your relationship can be a really great way to explore your fantasies and heat up things in the bedroom and in your relationship. Whether you’ve been wondering about BDSM for some time or became intrigued after viewing videos or visiting a kink and bondage website, adding the intensity that comes with this lifestyle can make you closer to your partner. Although it can be intimidating, BDSM exploration can be an exciting adventure with a little communication, honesty, and an open mind. Here are a few tips on how to inject a bit of BDSM into your relationship.
Communication is key to any relationship, regardless of its sexual inclination. However, when you’re delving into the world of kink and bondage in particular, it’s vital that you keep the communicate flowing. Begin by discussing what it means to be in a BDSM relationship, making sure that both you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to understanding the full terms of what it means to be involved in the bondage and kink lifestyle.
Remember to talk about the different roles, what they mean, and who will be the dom and who will be the sub. In addition, figure out what your limits are. Determine what types of BDSM activities you’ll incorporate in your play. Will you focus solely on paddling or go for bolder acts like spanking with whips? How submissive will you or your partner be? How dominant? Above all, you must make sure you and your mate are both on the same page. You may discover that BDSM doesn’t work for you and your partner, or that it’s something neither of you can live without.
Ease into BDSM
Once you and your partner develop a clear understanding of your ground rules, slowly introduce aspects of BDSM into your relationship. Start off by including those master/slave roles in your typical sex routine. Assign names to each other, introduce light restraints like a scarf or tie, and gradually add a little bit of pain, increasing the level each time you play. This is vital to creating a healthy BDSM relationship that will help get the sub comfortable with the submissive role and the dom become confident as master. Even if you already have established sexual boundaries, you may learn that as you explore, your limits will evolve. Don’t be afraid to go even further, but just remember to take your time. Letting go can be a lot to handle for some, so proceed with caution.
Further Your Pleasure
Continue your BDSM exploration by adding more and more elements of bondage in your sex routine each time you and your man play. Remember to incorporate bondage and kink accessories to enhance your sexual experience. Start off by investigating what bondage and kink products are available and how they can aid in your BDSM adventure. Read up on bondage basics and find resources for beginners at Adam & Eve. When you’re ready, buy a bondage kit for beginners then build on your collection with more advanced items like a fantasy door swing. Be sure to actively play your parts by indulging in some name calling or role play using different outfit
s that suit the BDSM theme. As your curiosity and kinky desires grow, so will your need to further explore BDSM and your limitations, so don’t be surprised if your assortment of bondage tools and toys flourishes.
Remember to check in with your partner throughout your initial journey into BDSM, making sure
you’re both okay with everything that’s occurring and are equally into it. Keep in mind that neither of you should feel as if you’re delving into BDSM to appease the other—this should be a relationship that turns you both on and helps better your relationship with your mate.
Guest post written by Rachel Edwards a relationship and BDSM blogger currently living in Seattle, Washington.